Showing posts with label marry oneself. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marry oneself. Show all posts

Friday, 9 September 2011

My Friend Married Herself - 2 Year Anniversary Today


Today it's 2 years since one of my very best friends Sara married herself, and took the new surname Starkström which means "high voltage" or "strong power" depending on how you look at it ..
I was (one of) the bridesmaid in blue and Sara was the bride in red ...

She married herself to celebrate herself
as a way of celebrating her own and everybody's self-worth and self confidence.
A way of showing that she loved and respected herself and wanted to commit to her own truth.

This doesn't mean that she can't have a partner, it's just an manifestation of that you need to love yourself before being able to love someone else.

Sara is also the author of Game Girl
- a female version of Neil Strauss dating handbook The Game.

See more pictures of the Wedding on Sara's blog.

At the time Sara didn't think of it as an art project, the idea of marrying herself was just something she had felt very strongly about for a long time, and I really admire her for this. I was very honoured to be part of her wedding day, and it's not until now that I look at it as a performance art piece.

Saturday, 12 September 2009

A Red Wedding






































.................... On the 9th of the 9th 2009 my best friend Sara got married. To herself. The ceremony took place on Mariaberget in Stockholm. Sara stated that the purpose of the wedding was to celebrate self-esteem and promise yourself to be true to your own ideals and values. The purpose is not to make fun of relationships, but an invitation to make people evaluate their own lives and follow their dreams.

In front of a crowd about twenty people she promised herself to love herself in good times and bad times. She was handed a ring (that cost £3.50) and took the name Starkström. (Strong power). I performed one of my poems, Dear Life, that I wrote years ago. Funnily enough it's on the topic of marrying Life. After the ceremony we had a three course dinner at Restaurant Esperia and a few brave ones carried on to Vampire Lounge for red drinks. (But at the ceremony we toasted in Snakebite.)